Sunday, September 26, 2010
Wednesday, July 21, 2010
Good One...
I am not bound to win;
but I am bound to be true.
I am not bound to succeed;
but I am bound to live by the light that I have.
I must stand with anybody who stands right;
Stand with him while he is right;
Part with him when he goes wrong.
I will stand by my belief.
Always.
Tuesday, May 18, 2010
It's The Journey That's Important...
Poet, John McLeod discusses life in this short poem. We hope the words inspire you to enjoy life as you journey through it. He reminds us while arriving is important what is more important is living each day. The verses are short but are full of wisdom.
It's The Journey That's Important...
Poet: John McLeod
Life, sometimes so wearying
Is worth its weight in gold
The experience of traveling
Lends a wisdom that is old
Beyond our 'living memory'
A softly spoken prayer:
"It's the journey that's important,
Not the getting there!"
Ins and outs and ups and downs
Life's road meanders aimlessly?
Or so it seems, but somehow
Leads us where we need to be
And being simply human
We oft question and compare....
"Is the journey so important
Or the getting there?"
And thus it's always been
That question pondered down the ages
By simple men with simple ways
To wise and ancient sages....
How sweet then, quietly knowing
Reaching destination fair:
"It's the journey that's important,
Not the getting there!"
It's The Journey That's Important...
Poet: John McLeod
Life, sometimes so wearying
Is worth its weight in gold
The experience of traveling
Lends a wisdom that is old
Beyond our 'living memory'
A softly spoken prayer:
"It's the journey that's important,
Not the getting there!"
Ins and outs and ups and downs
Life's road meanders aimlessly?
Or so it seems, but somehow
Leads us where we need to be
And being simply human
We oft question and compare....
"Is the journey so important
Or the getting there?"
And thus it's always been
That question pondered down the ages
By simple men with simple ways
To wise and ancient sages....
How sweet then, quietly knowing
Reaching destination fair:
"It's the journey that's important,
Not the getting there!"
Thursday, April 29, 2010
Hello God
Hello God, I called tonight
To talk a little while ...
I need a friend who'll listen
To my anxiety and trial.
You see, I can't quite make it
Through a day just on my own;
I need your love to guide me,
So I'll never feel alone.
I want to ask you please to keep,
My family safe and sound;
Come and fill their lives with confidence,
For whatever fate they're bound.
Give me faith, dear God, to face,
Each hour throughout the day;
And not to worry over things,
I can't change in any way.
I thank you God, for being home,
And listening to my call;
For giving me such good advice
When I stumble and fall.
Your number, God, is the only one
That answers every time;
I never get a busy signal,
And never had to pay a dime.
So thank you, God, for listening
To my troubles and my sorrow;
Good night, God. I love You, too,
And I'll call again tomorrow!
~ Author Unknown ~
To talk a little while ...
I need a friend who'll listen
To my anxiety and trial.
You see, I can't quite make it
Through a day just on my own;
I need your love to guide me,
So I'll never feel alone.
I want to ask you please to keep,
My family safe and sound;
Come and fill their lives with confidence,
For whatever fate they're bound.
Give me faith, dear God, to face,
Each hour throughout the day;
And not to worry over things,
I can't change in any way.
I thank you God, for being home,
And listening to my call;
For giving me such good advice
When I stumble and fall.
Your number, God, is the only one
That answers every time;
I never get a busy signal,
And never had to pay a dime.
So thank you, God, for listening
To my troubles and my sorrow;
Good night, God. I love You, too,
And I'll call again tomorrow!
~ Author Unknown ~
Wednesday, April 28, 2010
Few Thoughts...
See everything; overlook a great deal; correct a little. ~ Pope John XXIII
Enjoy when you can, and endure when you must. ~ Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
Anyone can carry his burden, however hard, until nightfall. Anyone can do his work, however hard, for one day. Anyone can live sweetly, patiently, lovingly, purely, till the sun goes down. And this is all life really means. ~ Robert Louis Stevenson
Remember, if you're headed in the wrong direction, God allows U-turns! ~ Allison Gappa Bottke
Be not angry that you cannot make others as you wish them to be, since you cannot make yourself as you wish to be. ~ Thomas Kempis, Imitation of Christ, c.1420
Enjoy when you can, and endure when you must. ~ Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
Anyone can carry his burden, however hard, until nightfall. Anyone can do his work, however hard, for one day. Anyone can live sweetly, patiently, lovingly, purely, till the sun goes down. And this is all life really means. ~ Robert Louis Stevenson
Remember, if you're headed in the wrong direction, God allows U-turns! ~ Allison Gappa Bottke
Be not angry that you cannot make others as you wish them to be, since you cannot make yourself as you wish to be. ~ Thomas Kempis, Imitation of Christ, c.1420
Friday, April 23, 2010
BE
Be understanding to your enemies.
Be loyal to your friends.
Be strong enough to face the world each day.
Be weak enough to know you cannot do everything alone.
Be generous to those who need your help.
Be frugal with what you need yourself.
Be wise enough to know that you do not know everything.
Be foolish enough to believe in miracles.
Be willing to share your joys.
Be willing to share the sorrows of others.
Be a leader when you see a path others have missed.
Be a follower when you are shrouded by the mists of uncertainty.
Be the first to congratulate an opponent who succeeds.
Be the last to criticize a colleague who fails.
Be sure where your next step will fall, so that you will not tumble.
Be sure of your final destination, in case you are going the wrong way.
Be loving to those who love you.
Be loving to those who do not love you, and they may change.
Above all, be yourself.
Be loyal to your friends.
Be strong enough to face the world each day.
Be weak enough to know you cannot do everything alone.
Be generous to those who need your help.
Be frugal with what you need yourself.
Be wise enough to know that you do not know everything.
Be foolish enough to believe in miracles.
Be willing to share your joys.
Be willing to share the sorrows of others.
Be a leader when you see a path others have missed.
Be a follower when you are shrouded by the mists of uncertainty.
Be the first to congratulate an opponent who succeeds.
Be the last to criticize a colleague who fails.
Be sure where your next step will fall, so that you will not tumble.
Be sure of your final destination, in case you are going the wrong way.
Be loving to those who love you.
Be loving to those who do not love you, and they may change.
Above all, be yourself.
Thursday, April 22, 2010
Good Piece..!
Chehre ki hasi se har gam chupao,
Bahut kuch bolo par kuch na batao...
Khud na rutho kabhi, par sabko manao
Ye Raz hai Zindagi ka, Bas Jite chale jao!!!
Bahut kuch bolo par kuch na batao...
Khud na rutho kabhi, par sabko manao
Ye Raz hai Zindagi ka, Bas Jite chale jao!!!
Wednesday, April 21, 2010
Count Your Blessings
When upon life’s billows you are tempest tossed,
When you are discouraged, thinking all is lost,
Count your many blessings, name them one by one,
And it will surprise you what the Lord hath done.
Refrain:
Count your blessings, name them one by one,
Count your blessings, see what God hath done!
Count your blessings, name them one by one,
And it will surprise you what the Lord hath done.
Are you ever burdened with a load of care?
Does the cross seem heavy you are called to bear?
Count your many blessings, every doubt will fly,
And you will keep singing as the days go by.
Refrain
When you look at others with their lands and gold,
Think that Christ has promised you His wealth untold;
Count your many blessings. Wealth can never buy
Your reward in heaven, nor your home on high.
Refrain
So, amid the conflict whether great or small,
Do not be disheartened, God is over all;
Count your many blessings, angels will attend,
Help and comfort give you to your journey’s end.
Refrain
When you are discouraged, thinking all is lost,
Count your many blessings, name them one by one,
And it will surprise you what the Lord hath done.
Refrain:
Count your blessings, name them one by one,
Count your blessings, see what God hath done!
Count your blessings, name them one by one,
And it will surprise you what the Lord hath done.
Are you ever burdened with a load of care?
Does the cross seem heavy you are called to bear?
Count your many blessings, every doubt will fly,
And you will keep singing as the days go by.
Refrain
When you look at others with their lands and gold,
Think that Christ has promised you His wealth untold;
Count your many blessings. Wealth can never buy
Your reward in heaven, nor your home on high.
Refrain
So, amid the conflict whether great or small,
Do not be disheartened, God is over all;
Count your many blessings, angels will attend,
Help and comfort give you to your journey’s end.
Refrain
The Added Value of CONTINUOUS LEARNING and Teamwork
Once upon a time a tortoise and a hare had an argument about who was faster. They decided to settle the argument with a race. They agreed on a route and started off the race. The hare shot ahead and ran briskly for some time. Then seeing that he was far ahead of the tortoise, he thought he’d sit under a tree for some time and relax before continuing the race. He sat under the tree and soon fell asleep. The tortoise plodding on overtook him and soon finished the race, emerging as the undisputed champ. The hare woke up and realized that he’d lost the race. The moral- “Slow and steady wins the race. This is the version of the story that we’ve all grown up with.”
THE STORY DOESN’T END HERE
there are few more interesting things…..it continues as follows…… The hare was disappointed at losing the race and he did some soul-searching. He realized that he’d lost the race only because he had been overconfident, careless and lax. If he had not taken things for granted, there’s no way the tortoise could have beaten him. So he challenged the tortoise to another race.
The tortoise agreed. This time, the hare went all out and ran without stopping from start to finish. He won by several miles. The moral - ” Fast and consistent will always beat the slow and steady. It’s good to be slow and steady; but it’s better to be fast and reliable.”
THE STORY DOESN’T END HERE
The tortoise did some thinking this time, and realized that there’s no way it can beat the hare in a race the way it was currently formatted. It thought for a while, and then challenged the hare to another race, but on a slightly different route. The hare agreed. They started off. In keeping with his self-made commitment to be consistently fast, the hare took off and ran at top speed until he came to a broad river. The finishing line was a couple of kilometres on the other side of the river. The hare sat there wondering what to do. In the meantime the tortoise trundled along, got into the river, swam to the opposite bank, continued walking and finished the race.
The moral - “First identify your core competency and then change the playing field to suit your core competency.”
THE STORY STILL HASN’T ENDED
The hare and the tortoise, by this time, had become pretty good friends and they did some thinking together. Both realized that the last race could have been run much better. So they decided to do the last race again, but to run as a team this time. They started off, and this time the hare carried the tortoise till the riverbank. There, the tortoise took over and swam across with the hare on his back. On the opposite bank, the hare again carried the tortoise and they reached the finishing line together. They both felt a greater sense of satisfaction than they’d felt earlier.
The moral - “It’s good to be individually brilliant and to have strong core competencies; but unless you’re able to work in a team and harness each other’s core competencies, you’ll always perform below par because there will always be situations at which you’ll do poorly and someone else does well.
Teamwork is mainly about situational leadership, letting the person with the relevant core competency for a situation take leadership. Note that neither the hare nor the tortoise gave up after failures. The hare decided to work harder and put in more effort after his failure. The tortoise changed his strategy because he was already working as hard as he could.” In life, when faced with failure, sometimes it is appropriate to work harder and put in more effort. Sometimes it is appropriate to change strategy and try something different. And sometimes it is appropriate to do both.
The hare and the tortoise also learned another vital lesson. When we stop competing against a rival and instead start competing against the situation, we perform far better.
To sum up- the story of the hare and tortoise has much to say:
Chief among them are that fast and consistent will always beat slow and steady; work to your competencies; pooling resources and working as a team will always beat individual performers; never give up when faced with failure; & finally, compete against the situation - not against a rival.
THE STORY DOESN’T END HERE
there are few more interesting things…..it continues as follows…… The hare was disappointed at losing the race and he did some soul-searching. He realized that he’d lost the race only because he had been overconfident, careless and lax. If he had not taken things for granted, there’s no way the tortoise could have beaten him. So he challenged the tortoise to another race.
The tortoise agreed. This time, the hare went all out and ran without stopping from start to finish. He won by several miles. The moral - ” Fast and consistent will always beat the slow and steady. It’s good to be slow and steady; but it’s better to be fast and reliable.”
THE STORY DOESN’T END HERE
The tortoise did some thinking this time, and realized that there’s no way it can beat the hare in a race the way it was currently formatted. It thought for a while, and then challenged the hare to another race, but on a slightly different route. The hare agreed. They started off. In keeping with his self-made commitment to be consistently fast, the hare took off and ran at top speed until he came to a broad river. The finishing line was a couple of kilometres on the other side of the river. The hare sat there wondering what to do. In the meantime the tortoise trundled along, got into the river, swam to the opposite bank, continued walking and finished the race.
The moral - “First identify your core competency and then change the playing field to suit your core competency.”
THE STORY STILL HASN’T ENDED
The hare and the tortoise, by this time, had become pretty good friends and they did some thinking together. Both realized that the last race could have been run much better. So they decided to do the last race again, but to run as a team this time. They started off, and this time the hare carried the tortoise till the riverbank. There, the tortoise took over and swam across with the hare on his back. On the opposite bank, the hare again carried the tortoise and they reached the finishing line together. They both felt a greater sense of satisfaction than they’d felt earlier.
The moral - “It’s good to be individually brilliant and to have strong core competencies; but unless you’re able to work in a team and harness each other’s core competencies, you’ll always perform below par because there will always be situations at which you’ll do poorly and someone else does well.
Teamwork is mainly about situational leadership, letting the person with the relevant core competency for a situation take leadership. Note that neither the hare nor the tortoise gave up after failures. The hare decided to work harder and put in more effort after his failure. The tortoise changed his strategy because he was already working as hard as he could.” In life, when faced with failure, sometimes it is appropriate to work harder and put in more effort. Sometimes it is appropriate to change strategy and try something different. And sometimes it is appropriate to do both.
The hare and the tortoise also learned another vital lesson. When we stop competing against a rival and instead start competing against the situation, we perform far better.
To sum up- the story of the hare and tortoise has much to say:
Chief among them are that fast and consistent will always beat slow and steady; work to your competencies; pooling resources and working as a team will always beat individual performers; never give up when faced with failure; & finally, compete against the situation - not against a rival.
Wednesday, April 14, 2010
Mouse Story ....
A mouse looked through the crack in the wall to see the farmer and his wife open a package. "What food might this contain?" The mouse wondered -
he was devastated to discover it was a mousetrap. Retreating to the farmyard,
the mouse proclaimed the warning.
"There is a mousetrap in the house! There is a mousetrap in the house!"
The chicken clucked and scratched, raised her head and said, "Mr. Mouse, I can tell this is a grave concern to you but it is of no consequence to me. I cannot be bothered by it."
The mouse turned to the pig and told him, "There is a mousetrap in the house! There is a mousetrap in the house!" The pig sympathized, but said, "I am so very sorry, Mr. Mouse, but there is nothing I can do about it but pray. Be assured you are in my prayers."
The mouse turned to the cow and said, "There is a mousetrap in the house! There is a mousetrap in the house!" The cow said, "Wow, Mr. Mouse. I'm sorry for you,
but it's no skin off my nose."
So, the mouse returned to the house, head down and dejected, to face the farmer's mousetrap-- alone. That very night a sound was heard throughout the house --
like the sound of a mousetrap catching its prey. The farmer's wife rushed to see what was caught. In the darkness, she did not see it was a venomous snake whose tail the trap had caught. The snake bit the farmer's wife. The farmer rushed her to the hospital and she returned home with a fever. Everyone knows you treat a fever with fresh chicken soup, so the farmer took his hatchet to the farmyard for the soup's main ingredient. But his wife's sickness continued,
so friends and neighbors came to sit with her around the clock.
To feed them, the farmer butchered the pig. The farmer's wife did not get well; she died.
So many people came for her funeral, the farmer had the cow slaughtered to provide enough meat for all of them. The mouse looked upon it all from his crack in the wall with great sadness. So, the next time you hear someone is facing a problem and think it doesn't concern you,
remember --
when one of us is threatened, we are all at risk. We are all involved in this journey called life.
We must keep an eye out for one another and make an extra effort to encourage one another.
REMEMBER:
EACH OF US IS A VITAL THREAD IN ANOTHER PERSON'S TAPESTRY;
OUR LIVES ARE WOVEN TOGETHER FOR A REASON.
he was devastated to discover it was a mousetrap. Retreating to the farmyard,
the mouse proclaimed the warning.
"There is a mousetrap in the house! There is a mousetrap in the house!"
The chicken clucked and scratched, raised her head and said, "Mr. Mouse, I can tell this is a grave concern to you but it is of no consequence to me. I cannot be bothered by it."
The mouse turned to the pig and told him, "There is a mousetrap in the house! There is a mousetrap in the house!" The pig sympathized, but said, "I am so very sorry, Mr. Mouse, but there is nothing I can do about it but pray. Be assured you are in my prayers."
The mouse turned to the cow and said, "There is a mousetrap in the house! There is a mousetrap in the house!" The cow said, "Wow, Mr. Mouse. I'm sorry for you,
but it's no skin off my nose."
So, the mouse returned to the house, head down and dejected, to face the farmer's mousetrap-- alone. That very night a sound was heard throughout the house --
like the sound of a mousetrap catching its prey. The farmer's wife rushed to see what was caught. In the darkness, she did not see it was a venomous snake whose tail the trap had caught. The snake bit the farmer's wife. The farmer rushed her to the hospital and she returned home with a fever. Everyone knows you treat a fever with fresh chicken soup, so the farmer took his hatchet to the farmyard for the soup's main ingredient. But his wife's sickness continued,
so friends and neighbors came to sit with her around the clock.
To feed them, the farmer butchered the pig. The farmer's wife did not get well; she died.
So many people came for her funeral, the farmer had the cow slaughtered to provide enough meat for all of them. The mouse looked upon it all from his crack in the wall with great sadness. So, the next time you hear someone is facing a problem and think it doesn't concern you,
remember --
when one of us is threatened, we are all at risk. We are all involved in this journey called life.
We must keep an eye out for one another and make an extra effort to encourage one another.
REMEMBER:
EACH OF US IS A VITAL THREAD IN ANOTHER PERSON'S TAPESTRY;
OUR LIVES ARE WOVEN TOGETHER FOR A REASON.
Friday, April 09, 2010
Really like this song from Kisna Movie..!
Hold me let me feel you
In my arms again
Softly you whisper my life
My best friend.
A moment is all i' m searching for
Just a moment in love with you
A moment so special so beautiful
In a moment my wish come true
Save me from the future
Take me back in time
the words they have no meaning
Without you in my life
Let me walk the rainbow
In times of sweet surprise
To when i was a little girl
And i had you in my life
Time has no answer
For words left unsaid
For words have no meaning
There' s no read ahead
A moment is all i am searching for
Just a moment in love with yoy
A moment so special so beautiful
In a moment my wish comes true
I am looking for a reason
To smile once again
Through every changing season
The pain i can' t explain
I see the magic all around
Shining down on me
With you my life would be so right
If only it could be
May be this world is a mystery to me- 2
But if you could be here for eternity
A moment is all i am searching for
Just a moment in love with you
A moment so special so beautiful
In a moment my wish comes true
A moment is all i am searching for
Just a moment in love with you
A moment so special so beautiful
In a moment my wish comes true
My wish comes true
In my arms again
Softly you whisper my life
My best friend.
A moment is all i' m searching for
Just a moment in love with you
A moment so special so beautiful
In a moment my wish come true
Save me from the future
Take me back in time
the words they have no meaning
Without you in my life
Let me walk the rainbow
In times of sweet surprise
To when i was a little girl
And i had you in my life
Time has no answer
For words left unsaid
For words have no meaning
There' s no read ahead
A moment is all i am searching for
Just a moment in love with yoy
A moment so special so beautiful
In a moment my wish comes true
I am looking for a reason
To smile once again
Through every changing season
The pain i can' t explain
I see the magic all around
Shining down on me
With you my life would be so right
If only it could be
May be this world is a mystery to me- 2
But if you could be here for eternity
A moment is all i am searching for
Just a moment in love with you
A moment so special so beautiful
In a moment my wish comes true
A moment is all i am searching for
Just a moment in love with you
A moment so special so beautiful
In a moment my wish comes true
My wish comes true
Thursday, March 25, 2010
Too True, Too Often
Too often we don't realize
What we have until it is gone
Too often we wait too late to say
"I'm sorry - I was wrong."
Sometimes it seems we hurt the ones
We hold dearest to our hearts
And we allow foolish things
To tear our lives apart.
Far too many times we let
Unimportant things into our minds
And then it's usually too late
To see what made us blind.
So be sure that you let people know
How much they mean to you
Take that time to say the words
Before your time is through.
Be sure that you appreciate everything you've got
And be thankful for the little things in life that mean a lot.
- Author Unknown
What we have until it is gone
Too often we wait too late to say
"I'm sorry - I was wrong."
Sometimes it seems we hurt the ones
We hold dearest to our hearts
And we allow foolish things
To tear our lives apart.
Far too many times we let
Unimportant things into our minds
And then it's usually too late
To see what made us blind.
So be sure that you let people know
How much they mean to you
Take that time to say the words
Before your time is through.
Be sure that you appreciate everything you've got
And be thankful for the little things in life that mean a lot.
- Author Unknown
I'll Be Here
I cannot ease your aching heart,Nor take your pain away;
But let me stay and take your hand, and walk with you today.
I'll listen when you need to talk,I'll wipe away your tears;
I'll share your worries when they come,I'll help you face your fears.
I'm here and I will stand by you,On each hill you have to climb;
So take my hand, let's face the world...And live just one day at a time.
You're not alone, for I'm still here,I'll go that extra mile;
And when your grief is easier,I'll help you learn to smile!
- Author Unknown
Always Remember
Always remember to forget
The things that made you sad
But never forget to remember
The things that made you glad.
Always remember to forget
The friends that proved untrue.
But don't forget to remember
Those that have stuck by you.
Always remember to forget
The troubles that have passed away.
But never forget to remember
The blessings that come each day.
- Author Unknown
The things that made you sad
But never forget to remember
The things that made you glad.
Always remember to forget
The friends that proved untrue.
But don't forget to remember
Those that have stuck by you.
Always remember to forget
The troubles that have passed away.
But never forget to remember
The blessings that come each day.
- Author Unknown
Wednesday, March 03, 2010
Interesting...
Good for gals as well as guys....... who have or will be going for Arranged Marriage. Sending this to others too, so that they may understand the mentality of people who cud never find a mate for themselves, n had to finally settle for an Arranged Marriage. This is a real nice piece -
Author unknown…but well written…
Every girl's desire who go in for an arranged marriage.............
The woods were lovely dark and deep.
Walking slowly beside her, in thedamp mud road, was her husband whom she barely knew. He was very relaxed, happily watching a group of kids playing at a distance.
Her "mehandi" was still dark and smelling fresh, reminding of theexcitements and tension 2 days back. "It can't work this way mom...please stop this", she kept telling her mother till the lastmoment, who wouldn't listen but carry on with beautifying her.
She hadbeen crying all night and her make-up had to be patched up twice or thrice to hide her awkwardly swollen face.It was too late now.
She had to get married "NOW" to the guy...The guywhom she had seen once and talked thrice. The guy about whom she knew nothing at all but for his name and work. Everything happened in ahurry and everything was over before she could breathe again... herewas she with this guy, all alone in this hill station... how can anybody send their daughter such a long distance with a stranger???
"Hey look at that....!!!" he shouted in excitement... she shrugged andlooked where his finger pointed... Bright colored balloons dotted the sky. Children were jumping in joyand he seemed to be completely absorbed into it...colors are alwaysexciting...but not now. She was not with her friends, not with her team mates, not even with her parents. This was not a 3 day tour or teambuilding trip. This was her life and she has been forced to start offwith this person.
Loneliness and discomfort with this stranger was sickening...She looked at him in wonder... does he even realize that he has marriedme? Does he understand that he has to love me, protect me, care for me, anew girl, a stranger, all his life?
The marriage morning started like a daylight nightmare for her. Thefirst time in life she felt she should have fallen in love and thenmarried somebody. Some man who she would have felt more comfortablewith, someone whom she could call by name and introduce to friends,someone whom she could trust.
But marriage morning was obviously notthe time to think all these.Her parents would never have said "no" if she had declared that she was in love. But she was not emotionally attached to anybody shemet, especially guys. She was very friendly, playing, teasing, but neverhad second thought for any man around her.
That brought the entire responsibility of looking for a groom on her parents' shoulders. Herparents had had a very bad time with this entire process. They startedtheir groom search with unending "&" operation. The concatenation of "Horoscope matching" & "Decent family" & "Good looking" & "Good pay" &"same cast" & so on... that always gave 0 output.
Now after all that 8 months hunt, they were not ready to hear her "ifs" and "buts" for this'good guy'.She had explained to her father. She does not feel anything for this person. He is nothing more to me than any other softwareprofessional. Like list of names she sees in the chat rooms. Distantand usual...
Her father asked her to talk to him and even meet him anddiscuss their likes and dislikes. That meeting started like theinduction programme self introduction and ended like a 3 hourseminar. She was waiting to get away from that place." So did you talkwith him?"."yes"."was he polite and decent"."Yes"."Oh he got thatspecial flavored tri-color ice-cream...!!!".OK. All her family andrelatives discussed...She was given the chance to "understand her life partner" and that they have understood each other "well" ಅಂಡ್ she isready for the marriage now.
All arrangements geared up and it was 24 days after her first meeting that she was getting married to her man... perfect match as everybodyelse described. Marriage hall was full with excited people, kids gotthe chance to play, ladies ಗೋತ್ the chance to wear the silk saree.The smell of rose and jasmine filled the hall. Different poses for thephotographer and artificial smiles for the videos. The moment he had tied the sacred thread was unexplainable vaccum in the head. It was over. She was his wife. Accepted by the society and law. Her proudparents were relaxed. This was their duty they had been planning tofulfill since she was born. All this crowd will fade away, leaving her to explore her new world...
He pulled her hand gently to sit on the stone bench. The bench was wet and the chillness was indeed enjoyable." So what are you thinkingabout?"... that was an unexpected ball.
Should she reply? Should she besilent? She remembered the two hour presentation she had taken lastmonth. Bold and confident, she kept answering all the queries with abroad smile. Now she remained silent." Do you know honey... I was not for this marriage too..." Oh my God... what did I hear??? Did HE tellthat or did I think aloud? What does he mean? Didnt he like me? Was heforced into this?
He must have noticed the quizzical look on my face...with a gentle smile he continued..."I wanted to look for a girlmyself, buy her everything, care for her, argue with her, laugh and crywith her, then get married to her... Anything otherwise would be a drama. Traditional drama and I was not for it anytime. But my love formy work and also my stress would not give me time and mind to searchthat girl...When your parents talked to me 2 weeks before our marriage, about your fear of getting married, to a stranger, I couldcompletely understand your mind. I could see myself in you and thatwas the moment I decided I will marry you. There was no time to prove myself to you, make you trust me, everything happened in a hurry. But there was the entire life before me, to please you, to love you, tomake you trust me. This is no less than what I had dreamt, the girl i was waiting for, is you. Now tell me... will you love me???"
Tears came down her cheek. Her parents had done more than their duty. They had found her the perfect guy. Thank you Mom!!! Thank you Dad!!! His question remained unanswered yet both knew the answer....
Author unknown…but well written…
Every girl's desire who go in for an arranged marriage.............
The woods were lovely dark and deep.
Walking slowly beside her, in thedamp mud road, was her husband whom she barely knew. He was very relaxed, happily watching a group of kids playing at a distance.
Her "mehandi" was still dark and smelling fresh, reminding of theexcitements and tension 2 days back. "It can't work this way mom...please stop this", she kept telling her mother till the lastmoment, who wouldn't listen but carry on with beautifying her.
She hadbeen crying all night and her make-up had to be patched up twice or thrice to hide her awkwardly swollen face.It was too late now.
She had to get married "NOW" to the guy...The guywhom she had seen once and talked thrice. The guy about whom she knew nothing at all but for his name and work. Everything happened in ahurry and everything was over before she could breathe again... herewas she with this guy, all alone in this hill station... how can anybody send their daughter such a long distance with a stranger???
"Hey look at that....!!!" he shouted in excitement... she shrugged andlooked where his finger pointed... Bright colored balloons dotted the sky. Children were jumping in joyand he seemed to be completely absorbed into it...colors are alwaysexciting...but not now. She was not with her friends, not with her team mates, not even with her parents. This was not a 3 day tour or teambuilding trip. This was her life and she has been forced to start offwith this person.
Loneliness and discomfort with this stranger was sickening...She looked at him in wonder... does he even realize that he has marriedme? Does he understand that he has to love me, protect me, care for me, anew girl, a stranger, all his life?
The marriage morning started like a daylight nightmare for her. Thefirst time in life she felt she should have fallen in love and thenmarried somebody. Some man who she would have felt more comfortablewith, someone whom she could call by name and introduce to friends,someone whom she could trust.
But marriage morning was obviously notthe time to think all these.Her parents would never have said "no" if she had declared that she was in love. But she was not emotionally attached to anybody shemet, especially guys. She was very friendly, playing, teasing, but neverhad second thought for any man around her.
That brought the entire responsibility of looking for a groom on her parents' shoulders. Herparents had had a very bad time with this entire process. They startedtheir groom search with unending "&" operation. The concatenation of "Horoscope matching" & "Decent family" & "Good looking" & "Good pay" &"same cast" & so on... that always gave 0 output.
Now after all that 8 months hunt, they were not ready to hear her "ifs" and "buts" for this'good guy'.She had explained to her father. She does not feel anything for this person. He is nothing more to me than any other softwareprofessional. Like list of names she sees in the chat rooms. Distantand usual...
Her father asked her to talk to him and even meet him anddiscuss their likes and dislikes. That meeting started like theinduction programme self introduction and ended like a 3 hourseminar. She was waiting to get away from that place." So did you talkwith him?"."yes"."was he polite and decent"."Yes"."Oh he got thatspecial flavored tri-color ice-cream...!!!".OK. All her family andrelatives discussed...She was given the chance to "understand her life partner" and that they have understood each other "well" ಅಂಡ್ she isready for the marriage now.
All arrangements geared up and it was 24 days after her first meeting that she was getting married to her man... perfect match as everybodyelse described. Marriage hall was full with excited people, kids gotthe chance to play, ladies ಗೋತ್ the chance to wear the silk saree.The smell of rose and jasmine filled the hall. Different poses for thephotographer and artificial smiles for the videos. The moment he had tied the sacred thread was unexplainable vaccum in the head. It was over. She was his wife. Accepted by the society and law. Her proudparents were relaxed. This was their duty they had been planning tofulfill since she was born. All this crowd will fade away, leaving her to explore her new world...
He pulled her hand gently to sit on the stone bench. The bench was wet and the chillness was indeed enjoyable." So what are you thinkingabout?"... that was an unexpected ball.
Should she reply? Should she besilent? She remembered the two hour presentation she had taken lastmonth. Bold and confident, she kept answering all the queries with abroad smile. Now she remained silent." Do you know honey... I was not for this marriage too..." Oh my God... what did I hear??? Did HE tellthat or did I think aloud? What does he mean? Didnt he like me? Was heforced into this?
He must have noticed the quizzical look on my face...with a gentle smile he continued..."I wanted to look for a girlmyself, buy her everything, care for her, argue with her, laugh and crywith her, then get married to her... Anything otherwise would be a drama. Traditional drama and I was not for it anytime. But my love formy work and also my stress would not give me time and mind to searchthat girl...When your parents talked to me 2 weeks before our marriage, about your fear of getting married, to a stranger, I couldcompletely understand your mind. I could see myself in you and thatwas the moment I decided I will marry you. There was no time to prove myself to you, make you trust me, everything happened in a hurry. But there was the entire life before me, to please you, to love you, tomake you trust me. This is no less than what I had dreamt, the girl i was waiting for, is you. Now tell me... will you love me???"
Tears came down her cheek. Her parents had done more than their duty. They had found her the perfect guy. Thank you Mom!!! Thank you Dad!!! His question remained unanswered yet both knew the answer....
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